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Rituals are also frequently used to recall shared memories about wonderful times and to re-live them together one more time. Examples are the cases when couples leaf through old photo albums together or even regularly take their vacations in the same place or maybe book the same hotel room where they spent their honeymoon. All of this strengthens the feeling of togetherness and creates a mutual foundation that helps many couples to master critical times together.
On the occasion of relationship counseling that is why I often ask the couple early on about the rituals it cultivates. When there are none (any longer) it quickly turns out that the couple has already drifted apart. Sometimes I also have to be persistent with my question until something is finally remembered – in that case the rituals have become routine, are taken for granted and no one recognizes them any longer. Ideally rituals should be deliberately created and actively nourished in order to protect their function as “relationship nurses”. During the relationship it is always permissible and desirable to change and expand them or even replace one or the other with a new ritual. Again, here the imagination should have no bounds. Rituals can also sometimes turn into “warning lights” when something in the relationship is going awry – when a partner forgets the anniversary for the first time in 10 years or the traditional Sunday morning breakfast together suddenly fails to materialize, a quick contemplation may well be in order.
By the way, the wedding turned out to be quite memorable, after all. Lots of friends armed with a battery of champagne bottles were waiting outside the registry to congratulate the happy couple by bombarding them with rice. A special ritual, indeed . . .
This article was written by psychologist and book author Felicitas Heyne. She is the developer of the iPersonic personality test. Take the free personality test now and get in-depth career advice and life coaching from our unique iPersonic personality profiles!Similar articles in this blog:
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